Sacred Loving Blog

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A poem for women’s souls

by Maya Angelou   A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ... enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to... something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour... A WOMAN...

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Tantric sex invites pleasure and so much more……

Try something new when you next make love, something that you imagine will help you get in the direction of pleasure and so much more. It's all in the willingness to try something new. Your body knows, your heart is wise, divine lovemaking is in your blueprint. Make...

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Tantric sex requires honesty

In fact, honesty is the greatest aphrodisiac ever! This is true whatever kind of sex you are having, tantric sex or the other kinds. In my next post I will tell you why; and how it works and how you can make it work for you. But for now I invite you to tell my why you...

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What matters is how it makes you feel

Thank you for some awesome comments on my last 2 facebook posts, the ones about masturbation. For those who have not seen them, if this topic interests you, check them out for different viewpoints from different people. Here I'll try to answer another question: What...

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What is Tantra

What is Tantra, there seems to be a world of difference in how different people are using that word? Tantra has become a term that seems to cause much confusion in people. There are a lot of different ways in which the word Tantra gets used.  To some it means a happy...

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What is healthy sexuality? Does it matter that we know?

Despite all the exposure that sex has in the media these days it still remains a topic of great mystery and confusion. Far too few people enjoy a consistently  fabulous, nourishing sex-life. How do we define a healthy sexuality? Personally, even after 25 years of...

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My wife is no longer interested in sex, what can I do?

Question from a man: I have used Tantra, and found that I can feel good on my own, but my wife isn't that interested in sex anymore. Is there anything I can do? I do not want to look for someone else. We've been married 32yrs, just moved the last kid out of the house....

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Why are intimate relationships often so difficult?

or maybe a better questions, why are relationships always so perfectly imperfect and what can we do about it? By and large relationships tend to be imperfectly perfect. By that I mean that we choose exactly the person who can touch our soul, and help us learn our...

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Popular movies could be the greatest sex education,

but in fact they are the very worst. They teach us the wrong things. But what can we do about it? Movies have the potential to be the best possible sex education because everyone watches movies, so people could actually see a role-modeling of what loving, sacred,...

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Will you join me in this tantric experiment?

Dear friends,First I want to apologize for my unannounced long absence from this blog. Next I want to tell you what I did in this absence because in retrospect I realize that I was having an extended fabulous tantric experience.  At first it looked like the long and...

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What makes sex sacred? Healthy sex, what is that?

I certainly don't have all the answers for these questions, and because I don't, I have done quite a bit of research over the years to find out what different cultures during different eras of history have thought on the subject. What I found is that even though...

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Great book on Trauma Healing

For anyone wanting to learn more about healing from trauma, either for yourself or for your lover, friend or clients, I highly recommend Babette Rothschild's latest book "8 Keys to Safe Trauma Recovery"."It is not how many years in your life that counts, it is how...

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Opening your heart through sex: Last Part

Here’s another example of why attending to emotion during sex is so vitally important. Tom and Melanie’s sex life had been slowly declining over a period of two years after they’d been together happily for several years before that. Melanie complained that Tom didn’t...

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Opening your heart through sex: Part 4

continued from last post   ....... Allowing feelings will help you increase your sexual enjoyment. So make a little more room for your own emotions and those of your partner in your sex life. You won’t need to stop the lovemaking when something comes up. You can cry...

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