Tantra, what is it?
In the words of Osho.... The word 'tantra' means the capacity of expansion, that which goes expanding. Sex shrinks you, Tantra expands you. It is the same energy, but it takes a turn. It is no longer selfish, no longer self-centered. It starts spreading - it starts...
Any form of physical exercise is helpful
The more you can feel your body, the more you are in touch with your senses, the more your cells are alive, the better the lovemaking will be. Any form of physical exercise is helpful, some physical exercises are especially useful in opening energy flow, sensuality...
Our sex drive is in the part of our brain that hosts this instinctual knowing
Our sex drive is in the part of our brain that hosts this instinctual knowing. So tune into and cultivate your sense of this knowing, your ability to sense your body fully, in whatever way you can. The practices of the Tao and Tantra are designed for this purpose. ...
We actually aren’t in touch with our bodies
In many ways, we actually aren’t in touch with our bodies all that much. We often don’t sense as much as we could; certainly not as much as the tribal peoples did, whose lives relied much more on their instincts. They didn’t sit in front of a computer all day. They...
To have fulfilling intimacy, you need opening & understanding
To have fulfilling intimacy, you need opening & understanding on many different levels of your being: physical, energetic, emotional & spiritual. Let’s start with the physical, since relaxing & becoming present physically will help you take in the learning...
Open Your Body
"You only need to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves." This line of a poem by Mary Oliver says it very simply. Listening to your body, letting your body tell you what it truly needs, is so very important. Because the body is wise and the body never...
Open both you and your partner to more love.
If a penis is fueled by the heart’s wishes and not the mind’s fantasies, it has true wisdom. It can intuit the vagina’s needs and wishes. It has the ability to heal, and open both you and your partner to more love. I encourage you to try a much slower way of...
“Oh, he’s just following his dick around!”
We’ve all heard someone say, "Oh, he’s just following his dick around!" It’s usually said in a derogatory way and is meant as a put down, and this has confused many men. It’s true, that if a man is in the addictive mode of chasing pleasure, he can be an insensitive...
Men: relax, slow down
Men: relax, slow down, & feel into your penis. You’ll find that it has a consciousness of its own. It knows intuitively how to make divine love, how to be most beautifully in your woman, how to serve her, how to help her open, feel more pleasure & even how to...
Greetings from Niyaso
Hello friends, I'm sorry I took such a long break from posting, when before that I was on such a roll. This time of the year gets really busy with couples vacationing on Maui, escaping from the winter, and doing sessions with me. Anyhow, doing so many sessions again...
Make love in a new / old way
Make love in a new / old way: Stay relaxed in your belly, back, buttocks, and thighs. Don’t move any more than what’s natural and soft. Don’t try and get anywhere. And don’t have an orgasm until your entire being is aglow with delight, until it feels like a relaxed,...
At first you’ll miss your orgasms…
Forgoing genital stimulation & orgasm may seem like the opposite of what you really want. But see what happens when you relax with the sweet sensations of snuggling. Do just enough gentle foreplay to get ready & then bring your genitals together. Make love,...
An Ancient Sumerian goddess knew
The first recorded words in known history, found etched on stone tablets in ancient Sumeria, believed to date to about 3000 B.C., are highly sensual love poems about a goddess and her lover. She tells him, "You are the one my womb loves best." She repeats this line...
A relaxed & deeper way of lovemaking
Finding a relaxed & deeper way of lovemaking may involve both partners letting go of too much intense genital stimulation before lovemaking. Having a lot of clitoral stimulation for women can be like having a quick pleasurable experience at the expense of a more...
Make Love Often
My favorite teacher, Barry Long, put it quite bluntly, “To learn to make divine love, put the penis in the vagina frequently.” Just like you would sit down to meditate or pray as your individual spiritual practice, make it your spiritual practice together to enter a...
Many women agreed…
Many women agreed in a women’s circle I guided, they didn't need an orgasm to feel satisfied. One woman shared that during the most ecstatic and fulfilling lovemaking she ever had, she did NOT have an orgasm. Yet, that the sweet and powerful feelings she felt in her...
Men have been so trained…
Men have been so trained that they have to please their women & been taught that giving her an orgasm or several, is how to do it. But that’s actually not true. It may help men to know that many women report to me that they can feel perfectly satisfied, even if...
This may seem like a radical statement to some of you…
For a man, a first step is often the discovery that sex can be totally fulfilling without orgasm. For some men this may sound completely unbelievable, even ludicrous! But the practices of Tantra and Taoism have helped hundreds of thousands of men down the ages...
The Tao of Love and Sex
The surrendered way of lovemaking is so forgotten, that it’s actually become foreign to people. Some write it off as not exciting enough, not hot enough, not stimulating enough. But they’re missing something delightful and divine, and sometimes what they’re missing......
People of both genders feel pressured
In the sexual excitement of our society, women are expected now to have multiple orgasms with possible ejaculation, just like it’s now fashionable for men to be able to have non ejaculatory multiple orgasms. These things do exist & are wonderful (I’ll talk more...