For a man, a first step is often the discovery that sex can be totally fulfilling without orgasm. For some men this may sound completely unbelievable, even ludicrous! But the practices of Tantra and Taoism have helped hundreds of thousands of men down the ages discover first hand that this is true, that in fact a man can experience much more energy and pleasure when he doesn’t come for periods of time.
For a man to have totally fulfilling without orgasm, he needs to learn how to hold his seed, to have control of his ejaculation and he’ll need the support of his partner with that. As long as you make orgasm the goal of your lovemaking, even if it’s only the orgasm of the woman, you are in danger of missing the beauty of truly sacred sex. This may seem like a radical statement to some of you…
Excerpted from “Sex for the Soul,” an Audio Home Study Course on Tantric Sex