Sex should feel like coming home
Tantra and opening to sacred sex is more of an unlearning process then anything else. If there is something to learn it's to learn to trust your innermost being and noone or nothing else. Certainly I hope you don't subscribe to all the strange ways of being sexual...
How did your week of pleasure go?
In my last 2 posts, as an assignment related to the question what it takes for a woman to be fully orgasmic, I invited you to pursue pleasure, to pursure the experience of pleasure in your body, in or out of relationship, with or without a partner, just to pursue...
Some more ideas for the “Pursue Pleasure” assignment
For those of you who didn't read my last post, I offered the assigment to declare a pleasure week for yourself, the idea being to pursue pleasure in any and all forms without going for orgasm. You don't need to be in a relationship to do this. I mean pleasure in its...
How can a woman find her orgasm and develop her full orgasmic potential? continued
sorry it took so long to post part 2 of this article, I guess it will show up in pieces So now to what a woman can do. If you have not read the first part, please go to my post from March 3 In a nutshell, for a woman to find her full orgasmic potential she needs to...
How can a woman find her orgasm and develop her full orgasmic potential?
I've been asked this question hundreds if not thousands of times, both by women and their men over the years. I'm afraid my answer has not been very popular, because my first response is usually: "It's not all that important that anyone discovers their orgasmic...
Tantra, what is it?
In the words of Osho.... The word 'tantra' means the capacity of expansion, that which goes expanding. Sex shrinks you, Tantra expands you. It is the same energy, but it takes a turn. It is no longer selfish, no longer self-centered. It starts spreading - it starts...
Any form of physical exercise is helpful
The more you can feel your body, the more you are in touch with your senses, the more your cells are alive, the better the lovemaking will be. Any form of physical exercise is helpful, some physical exercises are especially useful in opening energy flow, sensuality...
Our sex drive is in the part of our brain that hosts this instinctual knowing
Our sex drive is in the part of our brain that hosts this instinctual knowing. So tune into and cultivate your sense of this knowing, your ability to sense your body fully, in whatever way you can. The practices of the Tao and Tantra are designed for this purpose. ...
We actually aren’t in touch with our bodies
In many ways, we actually aren’t in touch with our bodies all that much. We often don’t sense as much as we could; certainly not as much as the tribal peoples did, whose lives relied much more on their instincts. They didn’t sit in front of a computer all day. They...
To have fulfilling intimacy, you need opening & understanding
To have fulfilling intimacy, you need opening & understanding on many different levels of your being: physical, energetic, emotional & spiritual. Let’s start with the physical, since relaxing & becoming present physically will help you take in the learning...
Open Your Body
"You only need to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves." This line of a poem by Mary Oliver says it very simply. Listening to your body, letting your body tell you what it truly needs, is so very important. Because the body is wise and the body never...
Open both you and your partner to more love.
If a penis is fueled by the heart’s wishes and not the mind’s fantasies, it has true wisdom. It can intuit the vagina’s needs and wishes. It has the ability to heal, and open both you and your partner to more love. I encourage you to try a much slower way of...
“Oh, he’s just following his dick around!”
We’ve all heard someone say, "Oh, he’s just following his dick around!" It’s usually said in a derogatory way and is meant as a put down, and this has confused many men. It’s true, that if a man is in the addictive mode of chasing pleasure, he can be an insensitive...
Men: relax, slow down
Men: relax, slow down, & feel into your penis. You’ll find that it has a consciousness of its own. It knows intuitively how to make divine love, how to be most beautifully in your woman, how to serve her, how to help her open, feel more pleasure & even how to...
Greetings from Niyaso
Hello friends, I'm sorry I took such a long break from posting, when before that I was on such a roll. This time of the year gets really busy with couples vacationing on Maui, escaping from the winter, and doing sessions with me. Anyhow, doing so many sessions again...
Make love in a new / old way
Make love in a new / old way: Stay relaxed in your belly, back, buttocks, and thighs. Don’t move any more than what’s natural and soft. Don’t try and get anywhere. And don’t have an orgasm until your entire being is aglow with delight, until it feels like a relaxed,...
At first you’ll miss your orgasms…
Forgoing genital stimulation & orgasm may seem like the opposite of what you really want. But see what happens when you relax with the sweet sensations of snuggling. Do just enough gentle foreplay to get ready & then bring your genitals together. Make love,...
An Ancient Sumerian goddess knew
The first recorded words in known history, found etched on stone tablets in ancient Sumeria, believed to date to about 3000 B.C., are highly sensual love poems about a goddess and her lover. She tells him, "You are the one my womb loves best." She repeats this line...
A relaxed & deeper way of lovemaking
Finding a relaxed & deeper way of lovemaking may involve both partners letting go of too much intense genital stimulation before lovemaking. Having a lot of clitoral stimulation for women can be like having a quick pleasurable experience at the expense of a more...
Make Love Often
My favorite teacher, Barry Long, put it quite bluntly, “To learn to make divine love, put the penis in the vagina frequently.” Just like you would sit down to meditate or pray as your individual spiritual practice, make it your spiritual practice together to enter a...