When it comes to Tantra and the concept of using sexual energy and love-making as a path to God or the Divine, there has long been conflicting opinions as to the role of orgasms in achieving these higher states of consciousness. Many insist that the man can only attain union with the Divine if he abstains from orgasms and retains his seed. Then there are those who believe that even orgasm in women leads to changes in bio-chemistry that can cause disconnection later on. Apparently the Egyptians believed otherwise, see article below. I think that they were right in many ways; in my experience it does not matter as much whether to orgasm or not, but what we do with the energy that gets awakened before, during, and after orgasm, whether we allow it to dissipate leaving us empty or whether we know how to guide it in ways that will feed our spirit. This is true not just for orgasm, but for any state of sexual arousal. That is why I alway suggest that people focus on the making of love rather than having sex. If love is the focus and intent, you don’t need any special technique and you really don’t need to know about chakras or anything esoteric. Let the beauty and pleasure of sexual energy ignite and open your love channel, that of personal love for your partner, but also that of Divine Love and you will be on the right path.
The Ankh and the Orgasm
taken from Drunvalo writings
It was believed in ancient Egypt that the orgasm was the key to eternal life, and that it was intimately connected with the chakra system. A chakra is an energy vortex connected to the entire human energy field, and the Universal Heart Chakra is the fifth of thirteen chakras. (There is also a system of eight chakras; in that system, the heart chakra is number four.) The Egyptian system held that the orgasm was intimately connected to this fifth, or Universal Heart Chakra.
First, we will explain the connection to eternal life.
Most people in the world are ignorant about what happens to their sexual energy after they have an orgasm. Usually, the energy moves up the spine and out the top of the head directly into the eighth or thirteenth chakra (same chakra, different system). In a few rare cases, the sexual energy is released down the spine into the hidden center below the feet, the point opposite the one above the head. In either case, the sexual energy — the concentrated life-force energy called prana in Hinduism — is dissipated and lost. It is similar to discharging a battery into a ground wire. It is no longer in the battery and so it is gone forever. This is what all the world’s Tantric systems that I am aware of believe, that orgasm brings one a little closer to death because a person loses his or her life-force energy in the orgasm and is made weaker. But the Egyptians found long ago that it does not have to be this way.
It is for this reason that the Hindu and Tibetan Tantra systems ask the male to avoid ejaculating. Instead, they speak of these tiny invisible tubes where, when a student learns to control the orgasm and the flow of their sexual energy, the sperm migrates up to the higher centers.
Both of these systems, and also the Chinese Taoist system, are all primarily concerned with the sexual energy flow, sometimes referred to as “sexual currents.” They are primarily concerned with what happens as the sexual energy is moved before the orgasm, but they all have entirely different views of this energy compared to the Egyptians.
The Egyptians believed that orgasm is healthy and necessary, including the release of sperm in males, but that the sexual energy currents must be controlled in a deeply esoteric procedure that is unlike any other system. They believed that if this energy is controlled, the human orgasm becomes a source of infinite pranic energy that is not lost. They believe that the entire Mer-Ka-Ba or lightbody (the field of energy surrounding and interpenetrating the body) benefits from this sexual release. They even believe that under the right conditions the orgasm will directly lead to eternal life, and that the ankh is the key.
— with Kuah Ming and Bernardo Nuñez Carmona.
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