Men have been so trained that they have to please their women & been taught that giving her an orgasm or several, is how to do it. But that’s actually not true. It may help men to know that many women report to me that they can feel perfectly satisfied, even if they don’t have an orgasm during a lovemaking session, as long as they feel met, deeply touched and opened.
In relation to orgasm, I’m not asking you to forgo sexual pleasure, quite the contrary. Some of you may have lived without that abandoned delight for far too long already. I’m totally in favor of each of you, man & woman, straight or gay, finding the most pleasure possible. All I’m suggesting is that you give yourself room to experiment so that you can really and truly find that place of maximum pleasure and joy.
Excerpted from “Sex for the Soul,” an Audio Home Study Course on Tantric Sex
