Will you join me in this tantric experiment?

Dear friends,First I want to apologize for my unannounced long absence from this blog. Next I want to tell you what I did in this absence because in retrospect I realize that I was having an extended fabulous tantric experience.  At first it looked like the long and short of it was that I was having a much needed vacation. And I did. I was in a remote area of northern Brazil, enjoying life on a palm tree-studded beach in a thatched roofed hut with a porch and a hammock.And even though I actually didn’t have any physical sexual interactions while I was there, what I did do was live each single day from moment to moment and the divine experiences that transpired were blissful indeed.I had every intention to continue to blog while on vacation because I really love writing, but existence, in the form of a very slow and unreliable internet connection and computer, intervened.Once I arrived at what I quickly realized was the perfect spot, I gave up any thought of  continuing traveling and shortly thereafter any thought of getting anything done. For a whole month I had no to do list, either on paper or in my head. The beach, and the river that led into it, were part of a low key international eco-community far removed from roads, cars, shops and bars. Everyone walked everywhere. There was lots of space. The whole community of 50 plus people had one refrigerator.It was a little bit disorienting at first, all that free time with so little to accomplish, but it was not hard at all to get used to. As the weeks went by I got more and more happy by the day.What is a little challenging, now that I am back in the world of information overload, worldly responsibilities and endless opportunities, is adjusting to the “normal” pace. Even though my mainland friends laugh because Maui is really not New York City, still the pace is different, at least for those of us who call this our home and are not independently wealthy. My friends and clients get offended when I don’t call them back within 1 or 2 days, appointments need to be kept, bills and deadlines are to be met, not to mention the never-ending task of  keeping back the jungle.Somehow my body and being know that what I lived in Brazil is the right way of doing things, the more attuned way of living life. And now that I got used to it, my body and being want to keep it that way. It just makes so much more sense.So I have decided that at least one day a week I will live life with no agenda, not even the agenda to exercise or do something fun or creative, but rather take the day as it comes.It doesn’t mean I won’t do anything fun, far from it, it just means there is no plan and no requirement. I invite you to join me on my new tantric experiment.The key ingredients of that day are: 1)No “to do” list, no plans.  2)No activities that require watching a clock, which also means no meetings, even with friends or for a massage, that require a plan and a specific time. 3)Allow myself to sleep if tired, rest as much as desired, read, take a drive just for fun, eat when hungry, explore something new. The possibilities are endless. Nothing is required. 4)I will also check in with myself regularly throughout that day and make sure that I am doing what feels best at any given moment, just like I had time and space to do in Brazil. Then I will see where this takes me. Maybe the one day a week can turn into more.Let me know if you will join me in this practice, what you think about it and please let me know how it is going. Of course you can do this with other people, your partner or your family, as long as they all agree to the basic lack of plan.love Niyaso