Here is what a young woman had to say about it:
Thoughts from a tantric love making fan
During listening to Tantra, Sex for the Soul, the audio workshop by Niyaso Carter, an excerpt caught me by surprise. While driving, I listened to Niyaso’s gentle voice say: “Men, if your woman is still during love making that doesn’t mean she’s a dead fish.” As a woman in her late 20’s all my life I have felt pressured to perform. In order to let my partner know I was enjoying our foreplay I always felt that I should make sounds, use words, or make movements. Niyaso reminds all men and women that intimacy can be like meditation. “A time of stillness can bring a woman into deeper union with her body, with her partner, and she can experience pleasure more fully.” Intuitively, I have always known this to be true but have always felt pressured to perform. All my past exposure to intimacy taught me that laying still was unacceptable. After listening to the audio, I was inspired to put a stop to my internal performance pressure. Instead, I decided to share my feeling with my partner. He responded well and later admitted to me he also felt his own past programming, expecting me to make movements or sounds. After our talk, I was able to spend time being still during love making. This made us both feel more pleasure. Later my partner admitted to me that during my time of stillness his old performance ideas made him question his own ability to please me. This experience opened up a new topic, how conditioned we are when it comes to love making and where are the conditions are coming from? Overall, listening to this excerpt and then sharing my needs with my partner brought us closer together and motivated us to look at all the different expectations and ideas we bring into our time of intimacy. With open communication and loving acceptance, we are now honoring our needs and are becoming more sensitive to each others touch. I love this new movement in our relationship. I’m excited about where it will take us. I encourage all lovers to have a conversation about this topic.
To find out more about this audio workshop go here Tantra, Sex for the Soul
