As a society, we’re imprinted with the belief that great sex should happen passionately, on it’s own, without any effort or communication. This explains why we’re so reluctant to work on this area of our lives, when we’re so willing to work on just about anything else. We unconsciously believe love and sex ought to be effortless.
Most of us believe that if we fall short in the world of sex, it must be our fault, or our partner is wrong, or the relationship is a failure. This belief that great sex should happen on it’s own is quite in contrast to the practices of the spiritual traditions of Tantra and Taoism. Paradoxically, great sex can & should be effortless, if we could only relax so deeply that we can hear our heart’s, body’s and soul’s true nature. In essence that is what Tantra teaches.