Make love in a new / old way: Stay relaxed in your belly, back, buttocks, and thighs. Don’t move any more than what’s natural and soft. Don’t try and get anywhere. And don’t have an orgasm until your entire being is aglow with delight, until it feels like a relaxed, whole-bodied, whole-hearted opening and letting go.
It’s more than OK if you don’t have an orgasm. It will relax both you and your partner to know that he doesn’t need to make it the goal of the lovemaking session to give her an orgasm at all cost, and vise versa. Eventually you’ll likely find sensual, sexual and deeply intimate joys and pleasures that you didn’t even know existed.
Excerpted from “Sex for the Soul,” an Audio Home Study Course on Tantric Sex